Put safety first
If someone is in immediate danger, call 999. If you are worried about abuse or control, the government's domestic abuse guide lists support routes. Tell a legal adviser about safety concerns at the start.
You do not have to describe private events to Here4Legal. Contact an adviser or support service directly. Ask about a safe way for them to call or write to you.
Write down what you need help with
Divorce is one part of ending a marriage. Arrangements for children, money and property may need separate attention. Ask which issues the solicitor can help you with.
- Where children live and how they spend time with each parent.
- Bills, savings, debts, pensions and the family home.
- A letter, proposed agreement or court paper you have received.
- Any hearing, deadline or urgent decision.
Prepare for a first conversation
Make a short note of the key dates and your main questions. Ask which papers the adviser needs before sending them. Mention if you need an interpreter, a different format or support to take part in the call.
Mediation means an independent person helps you talk through a disagreement.
- Does your team often help with this type of situation?
- What needs attention first?
- What are my options, and what might each cost?
- If mediation is suggested, is it suitable and safe for my situation?
- Can I get legal aid or other help with the cost?
Agree the next step
Ask whether the first conversation is free. Before paying for work, get a clear explanation of what the firm will do and what it will charge. Ask who will keep you updated.
Take time to ask about words you do not understand. If a decision is urgent, tell the firm so it can say whether it can help in time. Do not assume that every office listed under family law handles every kind of family problem.
Sources and further help
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